How Do I Help Those I See Struggling?

How Do I Help Those I See Struggling?

I often get messages from readers who have questions. Sometimes it’s from someone struggling with a specific issue, other times it’s more general. Over the past months I’ve had a conversation with a reader who articulated so well the struggles we all face when it comes to wanting others to…

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How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

Thought for today….. Relationships are often difficult for us survivors of bad things. Something I’ve picked up along the way? Is accepting others where they are, as they are  VS where we think they should be…. Goes a long way to making relationships work better. When we decide what others need to…

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Trusting Me (Relationships that aren’t working)

Trusting Me (Relationships that aren’t working)

I was always trying to “work it out” in relationships – until I learned this….

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Boundaries: Not What We “Allow” Others To Do

Boundaries: Not What We “Allow” Others To Do

When I learned this about “boundaries” is when things got really good for me and my relationships became so much less painful.

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Telling Lies as a Way To Survive

Telling Lies as a Way To Survive

We learn how to survive the drama, trauma and dysfunction; but how do we get past “surviving” to “living”? This idea helped me….

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Trauma Parents and Parenting – Brain Science and Your Child 

Parenting for trauma survivors often becomes about “obedience”. This article helps us understand how to meet our kids – and ourselves – on a new, nurturing level. A great article I wanted to share with you today that can help us see how we can help our children – and…

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When Relationships Hurt

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Making Amends or Making Excuses?

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Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Relationships. Can be messy, challenging and difficult for those of us from backgrounds of drama, trauma and dysfunction. Especially when we’ve not been able to get the help we need to learn to identify and resolve our family patterns AND our own patterns that contribute to the-dance-that-never-ends. One of the issues we can find ourselves dealing with is situations in which those who consciously, or unconsciously, have themselves on a pedestal or see themselves as having all the answers.

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Relationships Are Messy

Relationships Are Messy

We learn from our experiences. Or we don’t. But when we do? Is when we discover the “empowering solutions” – those things we can do for ourselves, by ourselves to be ok when things around us are not. Relationships are messy Over the years, like many from backgrounds filled with…

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