How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

Thought for today….. Relationships are often difficult for us survivors of bad things. Something I’ve picked up along the way? Is accepting others where they are, as they are  VS where we think they should be…. Goes a long way to making relationships work better. When we decide what others need to…

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Healing Others…

Very often when we start to find our way out of the darkness we want to bring the others in our life with us. We read something inspiring and think “so and so needs to see this”. We hear someone speaking on an issue that has touched our lives and…

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Getting UNComfortable With Chaos and Crisis

Getting UNComfortable With Chaos and Crisis

Very often as one starts traveling this path from there, where we’ve been, to where we want to be we can find ourselves stuck in patterns of what I call “chronic chaos”. This – chronic chaos – may be that place where “nothing ever seems to go right” or “why…

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Being Helpful or Butting In; How to Tell the Difference

Being Helpful or Butting In; How to Tell the Difference

As one from a background filled with drama, trauma and dysfunction it was challenging to learn how to start stopping the behaviors that perpetuated the patterns of my past. I came up with this to guide me: talking about what I think, feel, do, don’t do, did or want to…

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When Another Person Makes You Suffer (Thict Nhat Hanh)

When Another Person Makes You Suffer (Thict Nhat Hanh)

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. – Thich Nhat Hanh Wow. Well. This is a pretty big subject for survivors of drama, trauma and dysfunction. But this essay by Nancy Nicolazzo is also a very good example…

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