How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

How is Helping Harmful? (Healing Relationships)

Thought for today….. Relationships are often difficult for us survivors of bad things. Something I’ve picked up along the way? Is accepting others where they are, as they are  VS where we think they should be…. Goes a long way to making relationships work better. When we decide what others need to…

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Diagnosis or Dynamics? Does It Really Have to be “For Life”?

Diagnosis or Dynamics? Does It Really Have to be “For Life”?

Diagnosis or Dynamics? There is a meme going around that says “Before diagnosing yourself as depressed make sure you’re not simply surrounded by assholes”. And while I don’t agree with calling people names or abusing those who abused us – this meme sort of says a lot about what we…

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Being Helpful or Butting In; How to Tell the Difference

Being Helpful or Butting In; How to Tell the Difference

As one from a background filled with drama, trauma and dysfunction it was challenging to learn how to start stopping the behaviors that perpetuated the patterns of my past. I came up with this to guide me: talking about what I think, feel, do, don’t do, did or want to…

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