Trusting Me (Relationships that aren’t working)

Trusting Me (Relationships that aren’t working)

I was always trying to “work it out” in relationships – until I learned this….

Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Patronizing People (And Some Ways to Deal With Those Who Talk Down To Us)

Relationships. Can be messy, challenging and difficult for those of us from backgrounds of drama, trauma and dysfunction. Especially when we’ve not been able to get the help we need to learn to identify and resolve our family patterns AND our own patterns that contribute to the-dance-that-never-ends. One of the issues we can find ourselves dealing with is situations in which those who consciously, or unconsciously, have themselves on a pedestal or see themselves as having all the answers.

Healing Others…

Very often when we start to find our way out of the darkness we want to bring the others in our life with us. We read something inspiring and think “so and so needs to see this”. We hear someone speaking on an issue that has touched our lives and…

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Pain and Passion

Pain and Passion

The thing about emotional and psychological/mental pain? Is that we naturally look around us at what is causing us pain but we are not taught how to look inside for our solutions. Pain tells us that something needs to change in our lives. For those who come from healthy backgrounds…

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Choosing Dharma over Drama. | elephant journal

Choosing Dharma over Drama. | elephant journal

If we are not dramatic at the whim and mercy of every little issue that emerges, then how do we exist?   This piece from elephant journal by Damien Bohler does an excellent job of portraying the goal of the journey as I’ve defined it for myself: to be ok when…

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It’s In the Story (suffering)

It’s In the Story (suffering)

  I discovered an empowering solution when I understood that my level of suffering was directly related to the story I was telling myself about my circumstances. Was it “horrible” or “unfortunate” that I’d made that mistake? Was it “betrayal” or “their choice” when someone didn’t do as I thought…

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I Don’t Need Your Permission; (Overcoming Feeling Hopeless and Helpless)

Do you sometimes (or even most times) feel as though you are waiting for someone’s permission to make a decision or take action? Do you feel afraid of making your own decisions or taking your own actions? Do you vacillate back and forth, indecisive? Feel as though you made the…

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An Empowering Solution: 3 Steps to Sanity

An Empowering Solution: 3 Steps to Sanity

A large part of the challenge for many who have experienced life and relationships that were either over controlling/abusive and/or over permissive/lacking parental direction is that we are left feeling powerless – yet often told to own up and take responsibility for our lives without having had the life experience…

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